He or she has unrestricted access to the checking and savings accounts, credit cards, lines of credit and other avenues. By the way, anger is a classic avenue that they take when being found out to add smoke and mirrors to keep from sticking to the issue. After 27 years, you know what to expect, so maybe it is time to take care of yourself, for a change. Pull down each brick in the wall of lies…. The state that each person has expressed about their husband on this thread clearly says that your man is deceived. Yesterday, his phone went off while he was driving and he asked me to look and read message.
I am thinking of the Scripture that says the Love of God brings men to repentance. That he did not have any contact with that women and that this is the biggest lesson for him. He was drinking and denying and the list goes on and on! There are so many times I had no money for things and just the other day he bitched at me because my daughter spent thirty dollars more than he wanted on my birthday present. He really showed me how much he thought of me. He lies about other women as well as other things pertaining to his job and his family. I did not develop a gambling problem, but my wife did. He was swearing on his mom and his nephew lives he wants to get married, he said he loves me more then I could ever imagine.
Thank you for all your prayers. But I'm the outsider, I see the damage this has done to their family and he feeds her disease. As a Christian I thought that forgiveness and staying no matter what, was what God expected of me. We are working with a financial planner to get our finances in order, I have access to all accounts, will take him off of our main bank account, and monitor his credit report so I know if there is any activity. Find scriptures of promise and pray them over your spouse. My kids are 35 and 39 so they were well out of the nest by the time I made this major decision. Chances are this is just another lie the compulsive gambler tells you.
I only work I would have seen it sooner. How many on this thread have read 1 Corinthians 13 and live every step of it? Let me also add that about 2 years ago I decided to return to college, at 48 years old, to pursue a degree as an occupational therapist. Kim realized that anger makes her anxious: Her stomach churns, her heart races, and she squirms in her seat. He took the civil servic exam and had the opportunity to take a job with the post office or the police department. I would not be in contact with my father either, if it wasn't for my mother.
I found 800 cash in his computer bag looking for a cord while visiting. He needed to be happy and I worked steady so he could be self employed. I also think he is a compulsive liar. I am sick to my stomach. I immediately accused him of lying about the keys being missing and never even putting my ring in the safe. Myself and my 3 year old son left him in Feb.
I always suspect that there might be something going on. If not ending their actual life, many action compulsive gamblers in the final throes of stage four resort to activities that cause them to become incarcerated. Spam comments and referrals to hocus pocus email accounts and other assorted nonsense will be flagged as spam and deleted. Good luck to you and I pray your out one will be a positive one! Is he the perfect age? I have noone to turn to. If you suspect your compulsive gambler might actually hurt themselves, then you should call an ambulance immediately.
I did try to come clean about it a number of times and just could not tell my Beautiful wife for fear of what she would think of me and I feared it would end our 35 year Marriage. Even so, the difference is not that huge. This lie is an evergreen one that almost every compulsive gambler uses on more than one occasion. She only gambled a total of about 2 years, but I could not allow my life to be ruined by her addiction. I will pray for you every day.
On the other hand, just how much you are willing to put up with is your decision. Things between us became so stressful for me that I just retired two years early to get away from being with her at work. Anything to lighten what actually happened and to avoid the truthful details. It is amazing how many women fall for this kind of thing. Destroying many things in my family, and bringing in lots of negative energy. He wants to believe the lies that she made up, so much so that she sometimes believe it to be true.
I am so sad and low and there is no happiness for me. Although he was gone a lot. Good for you joining a group. Even after coming in a relationship during fights i used to ask him if all of this was a lie and being the magnificent liar that he is. I wanted to focus on others as a team and there were times he was convincing, and played the Christian role well even running a ministry for awhile, until that fell crumbling to the ground. His explanation — they must have belonged to the previous owner of our house.
When we finally talked on the phone because we are 6 hrs apart I eventually came clean. As a unit, the family often disintegrates. I have promised my spouse one last time that I will not put them through this again, and i want to stay strong and not break the promise. I told him I was sorry…. There are times where I think there will be no end to this and something tragic will happen but I try not to think too much about it. He actually went into a rage and threw away his wedding ring, which we never did find.