But I did tell hubby my opinion of it. Of course , it is good when someone gets the help they need, but if it does not happen, you can only understand how you will then proceed. Even at war, soldiers cannot remain vigilant for more than 48 hours. Innocent people, accused and besmirched, are traumatized. We also been attending church regularly and our financial situation has been great. I hope you will take your letter and this response to your counselor. We don't have the best communication though.
For 1, your marriage might end up working out. It feels like a completely helpless situation. Clearly the person knows that he is married or else they wouldnt hang up. I did nothing that I was accused of, all the while he had extreme behavior besides the paranoia. You might also have a particular song or mental image that can ease you into the present. If you have a history of trauma from cheating in past relationships, it can be very difficult to overcome.
I hope for your sake that the meds kick in quickly and he realizes that his thinking is not rational. Of course, he will have to decide to make that step for himself. If she is with you then you already have approval. The only thing that's really changed is our sons death the stillbirth. I want to be there for him. A reader, anonymous, writes 4 January 2011 : This is verified as being by the original poster of the question I don't know what his problem is. Sometimes he comes up with some good reasons but I know in my heart that its not true.
I want to help him. You can make yourself believe that he is cheating just by dwelling on it. She slanders me, persecutes me and hangs me out to dry, time and again and calls her friend, calls her mom, tells them I'm a dangerous sociopath. So, I started checking where she was when she was not to be reached on her mobile, I started checking on her mobile while she was in another room or asleep. This is no way to live and I just couldn't. However, they can become terrifying if fantasy turns to action. Assume The Best You can tie yourself up in knots about something that isn't even true.
My personality is a lot like hers, so naturally, he's worried. Above all she never wanted people knowing about her life and so lied to keep people from knowing much about her. There is marriage counseling if you can afford it. We have been married for almost 4. I woke up around 12pm, saw that my boyfriend read my message on Kik Messenger one I sent around 3 in the morning; we stay up late , and he didn't reply. I know , I keep feeling like he's cheating on me. Since this is your father, I guess all you can do is love him and take care of yourself.
He read msgs btwn my sister and I pertaining to her trying to contact me and not being able to,and me telling her I had a problem with my phone and would have my sim replaced the next morning. It is impossible to get out of this situation without having scars left into your trust mechanism. There's a chance to be good for something. You really need to just ask him, not why is he keeping tabs, but what changed that made him feel he needed to. I'm happy to hear that your feeling healthy again. I have been praying a lot.
Let him look over your shoulder when you are at facebook, do not hide your mobile. He says that he knows that I am cheating on him. Let him have access to every thing. I needed confidence and to see in myself what she saw in me. Do you accuse him of cheating? It is worth it to sleep 1 hour later and having re-established communication with your husband, than avoid it and have a whole day or night of arguments. To the point that me and anyone that tries to help her is scared away.
For 2, you might end up with a great divorce settlement and an amicable divorce. Be empathic with the emotion and let the thought be there. So that is a start. She needs to know how desperate you are feeling. His first wife and several girl friends cheated on him so I think he has a great mistrust of people. So, i contacted him and explained to him and he told me that my days of sorrows are over that my husband will come back to me within 12 to 16 hours. He became fixated with women that he met ie texting them for hours but with no outcome.
He makes up all sorts of stuff and worries himself sick. But individuals can also suffer from Delusional Disorder, which is characterized by the holding of one or more delusional beliefs in the absence of any other psychopathology. Well, from that point on she claimed my Dad was purposely doing things to piss her off or make her mad. If you love each other you should give it a try. She needs that freedom and you need to give it to her.